The Law of Expediency in Marriage
Choosing the right partner for life is very important aspect in marriage. One does not just jump in now and tomorrow declares he or she is married to a stranger. Marriage is a lifetime contract where “two becomes one.” They live together in sickness and in health till death do they part. So what is this all about finding the right partner?
For Christians, it is strongly encouraged that Christians marry Christians. When Christians’ desire is to go to heaven, they must find someone who shares with them that dream. They must find someone who lives right and who shares the same Christian life and work for it in life. Bob Todesco says in his article “The fruit of Unity” that has some relation to choosing a family “One of the most foundational scriptures addressing unity is found in Ephesians 1:9-10 “For he has made known to us in all wisdom and insight the mystery of his will… to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth.” The importance of this scripture cannot be overestimated since it presents God’s plan from before the foundation of the world. “…even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world” (Ephesians1:4). Togetherness in worship supports God’s plan; togetherness in mission supports God’s plan. We do not always know exactly what the Lord is doing, but he has revealed his overall plans and purposes to those who want to live for Christ.”
An argument was raised whether this concept is consistent with God. The answer is absolutely yes! James 4:4 says; “Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.” Gill’s Exposition to the Bible says; “In a figurative and metaphorical sense: as he is an adulterer that removes his affections from his own wife;… and she is an adulteress that loves not her husband, but places her love upon another… who, instead of loving God, whom they ought to love with all their hearts and souls, set their affections upon the world, and the things of it.”
Apostle Paul said “What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”(2 Corinthians 6:15) It is wrong for believers to join with the wicked and profane. True elders will caution their beloved children in the gospel, not to be unequally yoked. The fatal effects of neglecting Scripture precepts as to marriages clearly appear. Instead of a help meet, the union brings a snare (Matthew Henry Commentary).
What evil can we say when we see Christians are marrying Christians? None! Is it expedient for Christians to marry Christians? The answer Biblically is absolutely! It is expedient! The word expedient means “tending to promote some proposed or desired object; fit or suitable for the purpose; proper under the circumstances. It also means conducive to advantage or interest, as opposed to right. (dictionary.com)