From the creation of the world God has instituted marriage and said in first book of the Bible “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). When a couple gets married, they are meant to demonstrate by becoming “one” for the rest of their lives at the same time maintaining their individuality. Marriage is a vow of male and female to become husband and wife. That vow is for lifetime. Marriam –Webster defined it “as the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.”
Mary Fairchild in her article “What is the Biblical definition of marriage” says; there are three commonly held beliefs about what constitutes a marriage in the eyes of God:
- The couple is married in the eyes of God when the couple is legally married.
- The couple is married in the eyes of God after they have participated in a formal religious wedding ceremony.
- The couple is married in the eyes of God when the physical union is consummated when they lived together.
When vows are made in the presence of men and to the person whom they are marrying, they made the vows in the presence of God also. Marriage is a gift of God in creation through which husband and wife may know the grace of God. It is given that as man and woman grow together in love and trust, they shall be united with one another in heart, body and mind, as Christ is united with his bride, the Church (www.heapeyandwithnellchurches.co.uk/contemporary.pdf).
God is absolutely included in this deal. This is the main thing that concerns God’s will for one’s life and one’s potential spouse. Where does the will of God enter into all of this discussion? It’s central, it’s primary, and it’s the most important aspect. Let’s consider some of the steps involved in this process. The first step is desiring the will of God for your life. In doing this it means surrendering your life to God and asking Him to be the directing agent. The next step is developing relationships with believers, because marriages tend to develop out of existing relationships. This is a safeguard against marrying a non-Christian. Jesus said in John 1:7; “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin” (H. Norman Wright – Seek God’s Will Carefully When Choosing a Spouse). For a Christian to marry an unbeliever is not only to disobey God, it is to enter marriage lacking crucial ingredient. It has been described as a triangle with God. The closer each partner moves to God, the closer they move toward each other. The further each moves from God, the further they move from each other. As soon as Adam and Eve disobeyed God, they experienced alienation from each other and Adam began blaming Eve for his problems (Gen 3;7,12). Broken marriages always involve at least one partner moving away from God. So the starting place in having a marriage according to God’s design is genuine conversation and a daily walk with God (https://bible.org/seriespage/lesson-2-god-s-design-marriage-genesis-218-25).